So, what is parenting?
Parenting is a way of parenting to educate children how parents provide protection, care and observe healthy development as well as activities to grow up.
Child Parenting & Parenting Principles of Character Development – The role of parents is very related to the development of children from birth to growing up to growing up to instilling morals and ethics, as well as the provision of children in the future. Changes in the mindset of children should always be supervised the growth and development, so that children begin to be trained from small to do good habits in the community.
Today there are many patterns of childcare to build positive character and behavior in life, especially religion, self, nation and country. Therefore, parental care is very important. Even though the child is attending school lessons.
The goal is to raise a child until he becomes independent, does not become a burden for others, can benefit parents and others. And grow and recognize the potential of the baby, adolescence to adulthood.
If parents know how much influence it is from parenting science it is likely that parents will follow the science of parenting, whether from seminars, listening, or reading. Sometimes parents don’t realize that parenting is important. Because we are preparing for the future to make a better generation.
1. Directing Positive Behavior to Children
In fact, goodness is a habit. Sometimes at the beginning it will be difficult, do not give up to do the right things for the good of the child in the future. By doing some of the following methods:
- Give a good example.
- Give a briefing.
- Conducting supervision.
2 Give a number of briefings, tasks or orders gradually
Try not to put a burden on a number of problems at once (on the same time). But give it gradually, this has a big influence on the psyche and response of the child, because in general the child’s soul is still soft (smashed), easy to direct. Therefore, try to give a briefing gradually.
3. Choose the right time to give direction
In the selection of the right time when giving directions, it will be more effective so that the advice you give will be very influential. And try to practice with simple things to develop thoughts between mother and child.
4. In providing lessons, determine the ways of learning that are appropriate to the level of age
Maybe some people, forgetting about the age of the child and how the pattern of what should be taught. And we should follow the development, and provide a portion of learning with a level of age, because this is the responsibility of parents.
The first time you build, try when the child when at age can sit in the suck (sing in the inched little by little). A child needs a motivator / people around can give him support so that the child will try to control himself.
5. Teach children to control themselves
Your child will learn about how to maintain and control himself through love and supervision of him, which you always give with effort and patience. And one day the child will understand how to control himself, do good and acceptable behavior.
6 Try to ask for an opinion when he has been 4 years old
Try to invite your child to talk and discuss simple things when the child is 4 years older. By starting the explanation of the problem in the aspect of the scope of his behavior, if the child still has not understood, then you should try to further try to give a heart-hearted understanding so that the child gets the rules, especially when your child before entering school.
Types of parenting:
1. Authoritarian
The style of authoritarian discipline by harboring very high expectations of the child’s behavior. And far beyond what they can do. More specifically children behave effectively just like adults.
2 Permissive
Permissive discipline is a term that is “less good” because permissive parents are more liberated their children, without discipline. For example, like “Ah understand ya ma’am.. he is still a child, so he can not eat a lot of candy, let alone the important thing is that he is happy” whereas if eating sweets excessively will damage the teeth of the little one, usually parents are afraid if their children cry because parents feel dear, but if you love excessively it is not good.
3. Authorative
This method is applied like an authoritarian 50% + permissive 50% and apply it very carefully when parenting and controlling the child’s will. Parents prefer to be realistic. Parents are not afraid if their children cry, but when their child cries, often due to the discipline process, they offer more comfort but discipline.
4. Mindful
This method prioritizes the awareness of parents in children in a attention and empatfront manner, controlling emotions when with children, and not judging themselves and others.
5. Islami
In order to uphold the method of Islamic parenting, by exemplifying the story in Islam as a role model and instilling a sense of love for Allah SWT and His Messenger. Who will connect with good communication in this world and in the Hereafter. And do not forget, to hone the child’s ability to be a religious person and noble character.
In addition, when the child has been born until the age of 2 years he has an active motoring ability commonly called Golden age or golden period is the child’s development period. The golden age is very important to note because the time when the child’s brain grows rapidly, which will shape the development of attitudes, emotions and behavior in children. If we don’t keep an eye on it well, worry about the lack of growth optimally.
Some things to consider in the golden age:
- Pay attention to fine motor development
- Pay attention to gross motor development
- Attention of Cognitive Development
- Recognize child growth disorders
- Recognize the potential of children
Those are some parenting tips that parents must know. With maximum effort and continuous prayer, parents can educate their children to become individuals who are independent, tough, and grow optimally. If a child has a superior personality, it will certainly be a source of pride for the parents, right?
Written by Ike Marta Dityas
